Dateless and happy.
The next time someone comes up to me and says "Anna, we need to find you a man" I think I am going to scream.
Why does it seem like everyone thinks I am socially inept to find a man? I like to think I am friendly, it's not like I don't talk to people - then why do people feel I need a prod in this area? Why does it seem that people assume that if you're not in a relationship, you're not happy and you should be in one? Or in my case will find one for you! I'm not worried, so why should anyone else be?
Its so easy to manipulate things. Its so easy to get someone to 'hook you up' with the person you like (or more like who you think you like, when in actual fact you don't really know them from a bar of soap) or even with the person who matches your 'list' of requirements (I say burn the lists!). I don't want that.
I don't want someone who someone else thinks is good for me, heck, I don't even know myself what is good for me, let alone someone else. I don't want who I want for me, I want who God wants for me, because its when you rely on God for things (in this case, relationships) - that's when the miracles happen.
A good friend said to me: if you're not happy just you and God, you're not going to be happy in a relationship either. That's so true. If you're not happy being single with your relationship with God - being in a relationship is not going to change anything. You're still not going to be happy, in fact you're just trying to fill a void that only God can fill.
I'm honestly happy and single with God - but as for finding me a man? Take it easy, God's got it sorted.
Why does it seem like everyone thinks I am socially inept to find a man? I like to think I am friendly, it's not like I don't talk to people - then why do people feel I need a prod in this area? Why does it seem that people assume that if you're not in a relationship, you're not happy and you should be in one? Or in my case will find one for you! I'm not worried, so why should anyone else be?
Its so easy to manipulate things. Its so easy to get someone to 'hook you up' with the person you like (or more like who you think you like, when in actual fact you don't really know them from a bar of soap) or even with the person who matches your 'list' of requirements (I say burn the lists!). I don't want that.
I don't want someone who someone else thinks is good for me, heck, I don't even know myself what is good for me, let alone someone else. I don't want who I want for me, I want who God wants for me, because its when you rely on God for things (in this case, relationships) - that's when the miracles happen.
A good friend said to me: if you're not happy just you and God, you're not going to be happy in a relationship either. That's so true. If you're not happy being single with your relationship with God - being in a relationship is not going to change anything. You're still not going to be happy, in fact you're just trying to fill a void that only God can fill.
I'm honestly happy and single with God - but as for finding me a man? Take it easy, God's got it sorted.
Its true, girls do get it easy.
In a recent conversation with a friend, I mentioned about how many more friends we had made at university this year. My friend dully looked at me and said:
"More like, how many friends YOU have made this year you mean."
I stared at my friend in horror.
"What do you mean?! They are your friends too! They proberly even like you more than me, look at *name of person at uni* ! That person thinks I am dumb or something!"
My friend grunted at me unconvinced, and said:
"Well, they all talk to you."
I thought for a second and sadly replied:
"You know what? Its proberly because I am a girl..."
At that point it occurred to me, maybe, just maybe, in some sad warped way, it was true. People talk to me because I am a girl. Not because I was particularly funny, or knowledged enough in my subjects to help anyone with assignments, but just merely because I am one of a few females in a mainly male dominated faculty/degree. I think this is the point where I should start feeling a bit sordid, but I won't. No, I refuse to.
I have to admit, I love being a female, hey whilst I'm at it - a princess even. I never really thought there was anything great about being female (heck, when I was little I wished I was a boy!). But I am called to be a woman, imagine that, called to be a certain gender! But it's true; God has knitted me in my mother's womb to be a woman (as everyone else to their own) before I was even a twinkle in my mother's eye - so therefore, it is a privilege to be a woman. What a calling!
God made us softer, gentler, prettier, (and I am tempted to say wiser) than our male counter parts. He has made us great friends, lovers, mothers and sisters. He has made us impressive comforters, encouragers, and listeners, and the list goes on.
Do we get things easier than our male counter parts? Hmm, proberly - but hey, women are God's princesses!
"More like, how many friends YOU have made this year you mean."
I stared at my friend in horror.
"What do you mean?! They are your friends too! They proberly even like you more than me, look at *name of person at uni*
My friend grunted at me unconvinced, and said:
"Well, they all talk to you."
I thought for a second and sadly replied:
"You know what? Its proberly because I am a girl..."
At that point it occurred to me, maybe, just maybe, in some sad warped way, it was true. People talk to me because I am a girl. Not because I was particularly funny, or knowledged enough in my subjects to help anyone with assignments, but just merely because I am one of a few females in a mainly male dominated faculty/degree. I think this is the point where I should start feeling a bit sordid, but I won't. No, I refuse to.
I have to admit, I love being a female, hey whilst I'm at it - a princess even. I never really thought there was anything great about being female (heck, when I was little I wished I was a boy!). But I am called to be a woman, imagine that, called to be a certain gender! But it's true; God has knitted me in my mother's womb to be a woman (as everyone else to their own) before I was even a twinkle in my mother's eye - so therefore, it is a privilege to be a woman. What a calling!
God made us softer, gentler, prettier, (and I am tempted to say wiser) than our male counter parts. He has made us great friends, lovers, mothers and sisters. He has made us impressive comforters, encouragers, and listeners, and the list goes on.
Do we get things easier than our male counter parts? Hmm, proberly - but hey, women are God's princesses!
