Sorry, this is going to be another gripe post.
If you don't want to hear it, I suggest you stop reading here.
A few things have been coming up alot lately that have been bugging me. Firstly:
Girls who dont realise if a guy is not actively pursuing you hes not into you.
If there was a tactful way of saying that, I would be saying that to every girl I meet. Lately I've been caught in conversations with a few particular girls about guys and if the guy actually likes them or not. At which point I say "Well is he pursuing you? If not, then he doesn't. Don't assume anything." And as harsh as that sounds, I think its true.
Guys are simple. When a guy says he's hungry, it means hes hungry. So when a guy likes you he will make it blantantly obvious. Undeniably obvious. Why can't some girls see that? Why do some girls still ask me if certain people like them when they never even have had a conversation with the guy? I don't know, maybe its just me. Maybe I am just a hard cookie to break, but I would respect and appreciate a guy who can actually step past their own ego to tell a girl they like them to their face regardless of the consequences. Gutsy. That would definately impress me. I've said this once and I'll say it again: If a guy can't take the lead and initiate in relationships, then when are they going to start to lead?
I keep telling a friend of mine to be patient. If hes not pursuing you, he proberly doesn't like you at the moment. But talk to him and get to know him. Another thing I really wanted to tell her was to get her prioritys straight. Instead of obessessing about guys, maybe she should start obessesing over God. But how do you say that to someone doesnt want to listen or take God seriously? The thing about God is that when you focus on Him and put Him in your center, everything falls into place - even relationships.
Topless guys.
If girls have to wear tops over their swimsuits, I think guys should too. I know guys are visual and us as females must do our best to help the boys not to stumble, but girls are visual too. Okay, maybe not to the same extent but still visual none the less. Its a two way street. Girls still look, and the boys should be trying to help us not to stumble!
Guys who play mind games.
A girlfriend of mine told me about circumstance she was in with this guy who was playing 'hot and cold' with her. For those of you who dont know, someone who is hot and cold will be really warm and nice to you one moment and then the next time they see you they act like they dont even remember your name.
I was really annoyed at this when she told me this. I then proceeded to tell her that she was worth so much more than to have this guy treat her like that. He obviously doesnt care about her or her emotions. I've had people do the same thing to me. One minute hes all nice to you and you're sharing your life with each other, then the next time you see him he is avoiding you like the plague. "How are you supposed to feel when a guy treats you like that?" I asked her. Betrayed and hurt. Its as if they got to know you and after you opened up to them they now think youre an utter fruitloop, so they avoid you.
Hes not worth her time of day. She is worth more than rubies and pearls.
A few things have been coming up alot lately that have been bugging me. Firstly:
Girls who dont realise if a guy is not actively pursuing you hes not into you.
If there was a tactful way of saying that, I would be saying that to every girl I meet. Lately I've been caught in conversations with a few particular girls about guys and if the guy actually likes them or not. At which point I say "Well is he pursuing you? If not, then he doesn't. Don't assume anything." And as harsh as that sounds, I think its true.
Guys are simple. When a guy says he's hungry, it means hes hungry. So when a guy likes you he will make it blantantly obvious. Undeniably obvious. Why can't some girls see that? Why do some girls still ask me if certain people like them when they never even have had a conversation with the guy? I don't know, maybe its just me. Maybe I am just a hard cookie to break, but I would respect and appreciate a guy who can actually step past their own ego to tell a girl they like them to their face regardless of the consequences. Gutsy. That would definately impress me. I've said this once and I'll say it again: If a guy can't take the lead and initiate in relationships, then when are they going to start to lead?
I keep telling a friend of mine to be patient. If hes not pursuing you, he proberly doesn't like you at the moment. But talk to him and get to know him. Another thing I really wanted to tell her was to get her prioritys straight. Instead of obessessing about guys, maybe she should start obessesing over God. But how do you say that to someone doesnt want to listen or take God seriously? The thing about God is that when you focus on Him and put Him in your center, everything falls into place - even relationships.
Topless guys.
If girls have to wear tops over their swimsuits, I think guys should too. I know guys are visual and us as females must do our best to help the boys not to stumble, but girls are visual too. Okay, maybe not to the same extent but still visual none the less. Its a two way street. Girls still look, and the boys should be trying to help us not to stumble!
Guys who play mind games.
A girlfriend of mine told me about circumstance she was in with this guy who was playing 'hot and cold' with her. For those of you who dont know, someone who is hot and cold will be really warm and nice to you one moment and then the next time they see you they act like they dont even remember your name.
I was really annoyed at this when she told me this. I then proceeded to tell her that she was worth so much more than to have this guy treat her like that. He obviously doesnt care about her or her emotions. I've had people do the same thing to me. One minute hes all nice to you and you're sharing your life with each other, then the next time you see him he is avoiding you like the plague. "How are you supposed to feel when a guy treats you like that?" I asked her. Betrayed and hurt. Its as if they got to know you and after you opened up to them they now think youre an utter fruitloop, so they avoid you.
Hes not worth her time of day. She is worth more than rubies and pearls.
Never date a new christian.
"Never date a new christian."
Thats what my friend Christian said to me 8 months ago when I asked him what he thought about girl we both knew. I understood what he meant, new christians are still growing and establishing their relationship with God. New christians need to be focusing on falling in love with God, not the opposite sex in the congregation. So okay, fair enough, never date a new christian it is.
Recently in conversation, someone put me in reference as being a new christian. I have to admit this took be a bit by surprise, because I definately didnt think of myself as one. Like sure, I was away from God for a long while after being saved at 11 years of age, but I had recommited myself over a year ago - was I still considered a new christian?
I consulted a wise friend of mine. She said to me that basically, if people thought I was a new christian they wouldn't of put me in New Christian leadership in the first place. She said that whereas others take a longer while to grow spiritually, some people grow in the things of God faster than others. And that there have been people at church who have been there for ages who are still not full on for God and still need alot of encouragement to grow. In my life she said she has seen me change so much. I think I have to agree. Sometimes I look at myself and dont even recognise the person I am now compared to the person I used to be.
I don't feel like a new christian and I dont consider myself to be one, but in saying that I am still growing - we all are. I love growing, and being challenged in faith - Can you ever stop growing in the things of God?
Thats what my friend Christian said to me 8 months ago when I asked him what he thought about girl we both knew. I understood what he meant, new christians are still growing and establishing their relationship with God. New christians need to be focusing on falling in love with God, not the opposite sex in the congregation. So okay, fair enough, never date a new christian it is.
Recently in conversation, someone put me in reference as being a new christian. I have to admit this took be a bit by surprise, because I definately didnt think of myself as one. Like sure, I was away from God for a long while after being saved at 11 years of age, but I had recommited myself over a year ago - was I still considered a new christian?
I consulted a wise friend of mine. She said to me that basically, if people thought I was a new christian they wouldn't of put me in New Christian leadership in the first place. She said that whereas others take a longer while to grow spiritually, some people grow in the things of God faster than others. And that there have been people at church who have been there for ages who are still not full on for God and still need alot of encouragement to grow. In my life she said she has seen me change so much. I think I have to agree. Sometimes I look at myself and dont even recognise the person I am now compared to the person I used to be.
I don't feel like a new christian and I dont consider myself to be one, but in saying that I am still growing - we all are. I love growing, and being challenged in faith - Can you ever stop growing in the things of God?
Merry Christmas!
Its Christmas morning!
I woke up this morning to the smell of Ruth's mum cooking turkey. I wish I could wake up like that every morning! As tired as I was, I couldn't help but feel excited. This christmas is definately different to the ones I am used to. A change of scenery, a change of people, I am loving change...
I went down to spend Christmas morning with Lukes family and to give them their gifts. Its weird, I've spent the last 4 christmas's with his family and this year is the first year I'm not spending it with them. As I watched everyone opening their presents this morning, I felt a bit melancholic. After all these are the people that accepted me with open arms into their family and now things are different. Only the other day Lukes cousin said to me "You'll always be a cousin to me." They have been, and continue to be, such a blessing to me.
Anyways I'm off to spend christmas lunch with another blessing: Ruths family - Merry christmas everyone! I'm wishing you all a great and safe christmas! *muwah*
I woke up this morning to the smell of Ruth's mum cooking turkey. I wish I could wake up like that every morning! As tired as I was, I couldn't help but feel excited. This christmas is definately different to the ones I am used to. A change of scenery, a change of people, I am loving change...
I went down to spend Christmas morning with Lukes family and to give them their gifts. Its weird, I've spent the last 4 christmas's with his family and this year is the first year I'm not spending it with them. As I watched everyone opening their presents this morning, I felt a bit melancholic. After all these are the people that accepted me with open arms into their family and now things are different. Only the other day Lukes cousin said to me "You'll always be a cousin to me." They have been, and continue to be, such a blessing to me.
Anyways I'm off to spend christmas lunch with another blessing: Ruths family - Merry christmas everyone! I'm wishing you all a great and safe christmas! *muwah*
A place to call my home.
Home. Don't you just love when you come into a place and it just feels like 'home'?
I've just moved out of my place in Osborne Park into Ruth's home. Its been a bit different yet comforting to live with her family - I'm so used to living by myself for the past 2 years that its nice, even refreshing, to come home and find people there for once. Its great, I get to spend quality time with an awesome friend of mine day and night! What a blessing!
And speaking of homes, my church has just brought its own building! No more renting the university gym or setting up church every weekend - no we are getting our own church building which we should be moving into early next year! How exciting! I've been helping out with the renovations. I love it, I love Gods house, I love helping out - its my spiritual home!
I'm feeling so blessed at the moment. As I was driving home today I couldn't help but feel all warm and fuzzy about all the great things God has done for me.
God is soo soo awesome!
I've just moved out of my place in Osborne Park into Ruth's home. Its been a bit different yet comforting to live with her family - I'm so used to living by myself for the past 2 years that its nice, even refreshing, to come home and find people there for once. Its great, I get to spend quality time with an awesome friend of mine day and night! What a blessing!
And speaking of homes, my church has just brought its own building! No more renting the university gym or setting up church every weekend - no we are getting our own church building which we should be moving into early next year! How exciting! I've been helping out with the renovations. I love it, I love Gods house, I love helping out - its my spiritual home!
I'm feeling so blessed at the moment. As I was driving home today I couldn't help but feel all warm and fuzzy about all the great things God has done for me.
God is soo soo awesome!
Busy busy busy...
When it comes to updating this blog I'm hopeless, I'm utterly hopless.
Been feeling somewhat uninspired lately, with the only thing I've really been passionate about is people and my relationship with them - people can be so funny sometimes.
But heres an update with whats been happening with me. First things first:
Anna and her kitties move into Ruths house.
I'm in the process of moving out of my house to live with Ruth and her family for the next few months to try and save some money for when I move out with another friend. What a blessing Ruth is to me - I can hardly begin to explain. So much to do right now with packing and carting around boxes and organising for big burly men to carry my things I've hardly had a chance to rest this whole weekend.
New Christian leadership.
How crazy is this: I'm now a New Christians Leader for the 14-16 year olds at church. Too crazy for the following reasons:
1. I don't have leadership skills.
2. I don't even know how to talk to a 14-16 year old.
3. I am practically a new christian myself.
Why they asked me to do it, I dont know, but I am very honored that they would think I was capable of such a responsibility. All I know is that I am feeling really challenged in this role - I've spoken about this before, leadership is a big responsibility but I know God has given me this because He knows I can handle it (even thought I may doubt!). I am definately feeling challenged, but it will help me grow - so bring it on!
I am not as stupid as I thought.
Well Uni has finished for the year, I can't believe it - its gone by so fast! I got my results, and I passed everything much to my relief! At one point I was pretty sure I failed one unit but God has been so faithful!! One more year to go and I'll be: Anna Tsang BSc!! Can you believe it?? Maybe I can be an educated trophy wife... haha.
Christmas is around the corner!
So here we are again full circle and christmas is peeking around the corner. This year I am blessed to be spending it with Ruth's awesome family. A nice small family thing, something a bit different to the usual hooha I have with Lukes huge family. I havent brought any christmas presents and I dont get paid till xmas eve which will be interesting. I'll be fighting my way down the aisles in the mall. yay!
Life has been pretty busy, but great! Its amazing how full God makes your life when you commit it for His purposes.
Been feeling somewhat uninspired lately, with the only thing I've really been passionate about is people and my relationship with them - people can be so funny sometimes.
But heres an update with whats been happening with me. First things first:
Anna and her kitties move into Ruths house.
I'm in the process of moving out of my house to live with Ruth and her family for the next few months to try and save some money for when I move out with another friend. What a blessing Ruth is to me - I can hardly begin to explain. So much to do right now with packing and carting around boxes and organising for big burly men to carry my things I've hardly had a chance to rest this whole weekend.
New Christian leadership.
How crazy is this: I'm now a New Christians Leader for the 14-16 year olds at church. Too crazy for the following reasons:
1. I don't have leadership skills.
2. I don't even know how to talk to a 14-16 year old.
3. I am practically a new christian myself.
Why they asked me to do it, I dont know, but I am very honored that they would think I was capable of such a responsibility. All I know is that I am feeling really challenged in this role - I've spoken about this before, leadership is a big responsibility but I know God has given me this because He knows I can handle it (even thought I may doubt!). I am definately feeling challenged, but it will help me grow - so bring it on!
I am not as stupid as I thought.
Well Uni has finished for the year, I can't believe it - its gone by so fast! I got my results, and I passed everything much to my relief! At one point I was pretty sure I failed one unit but God has been so faithful!! One more year to go and I'll be: Anna Tsang BSc!! Can you believe it?? Maybe I can be an educated trophy wife... haha.
Christmas is around the corner!
So here we are again full circle and christmas is peeking around the corner. This year I am blessed to be spending it with Ruth's awesome family. A nice small family thing, something a bit different to the usual hooha I have with Lukes huge family. I havent brought any christmas presents and I dont get paid till xmas eve which will be interesting. I'll be fighting my way down the aisles in the mall. yay!
Life has been pretty busy, but great! Its amazing how full God makes your life when you commit it for His purposes.
