About Celibacy and Sex.
Why is it that nowadays if you're not having sex you're considered weird?
A girlfriend and I were talking about men and sex when she asked me how my sex life was, my prompt reply was "what sex life?? Its non-existent." I then explained to her that since I've reconfirmed my faith I am celibate now. She was shocked to say the least, and she looked at me very strangely and said: "so you're not going to have sex till you're married?? That's like, 10 years or something without having sex!!?" Oh yes it would be a very long time indeed ...
"Erm, Can I ask you something? Uhm, no I won't, I don't want to offend you." "No ask me, its okay." and the next thing she said made me laugh out loud: "Have you ever had an orgasm??" She thought that because I could give up sex that I proberly never did it properly!! Well, I never said it was EASY, I have to admit I am really proud of Luke. I know so many guys who if they were put in the same situation as him they would have left at the moment anyone said "No sex." And you can't say I wasn't being fair because I did say to him if he wasn't happy with it we can end it, and as hard as that would be, I have to make prioritys - God comes before Luke.
But its pretty sad alot of guys are like that. Is it really that important? Well okay for some people it is, but it really shouldn't be. One of the prerequisites my friend has for finding a partner is sexual compatibilty. Shes told me so many funny stories where she taken guys home and they weren't... hmm how to put this, 'well apendaged' enough?
But hey, thats the way the world goes I'm afraid. Everyone is having sex, and with movies like '40 days and 40 nights' about the guy who has to restrain himself for '40 days and 40 night' to get a girl - it makes it seem weird, or 'unnatural' if you don't (have sex). Even I have been in those conversations where someone says: "(insert name) is 25 and hes/shes still a virgin!" Shock. Horror. Who bloody cares.
I think its about time we can chose not to have sex and not be weird!
A girlfriend and I were talking about men and sex when she asked me how my sex life was, my prompt reply was "what sex life?? Its non-existent." I then explained to her that since I've reconfirmed my faith I am celibate now. She was shocked to say the least, and she looked at me very strangely and said: "so you're not going to have sex till you're married?? That's like, 10 years or something without having sex!!?" Oh yes it would be a very long time indeed ...
"Erm, Can I ask you something? Uhm, no I won't, I don't want to offend you." "No ask me, its okay." and the next thing she said made me laugh out loud: "Have you ever had an orgasm??" She thought that because I could give up sex that I proberly never did it properly!! Well, I never said it was EASY, I have to admit I am really proud of Luke. I know so many guys who if they were put in the same situation as him they would have left at the moment anyone said "No sex." And you can't say I wasn't being fair because I did say to him if he wasn't happy with it we can end it, and as hard as that would be, I have to make prioritys - God comes before Luke.
But its pretty sad alot of guys are like that. Is it really that important? Well okay for some people it is, but it really shouldn't be. One of the prerequisites my friend has for finding a partner is sexual compatibilty. Shes told me so many funny stories where she taken guys home and they weren't... hmm how to put this, 'well apendaged' enough?
But hey, thats the way the world goes I'm afraid. Everyone is having sex, and with movies like '40 days and 40 nights' about the guy who has to restrain himself for '40 days and 40 night' to get a girl - it makes it seem weird, or 'unnatural' if you don't (have sex). Even I have been in those conversations where someone says: "(insert name) is 25 and hes/shes still a virgin!" Shock. Horror. Who bloody cares.
I think its about time we can chose not to have sex and not be weird!
