When good girls like bad boys.
Why is it some girls like bad boys? You know, the type of guy you know that if you ever went out with them they would proberly treat you like crap. I have a few friends who are like this, and it totally eludes me why anyone would want to be with someone who acted like a donkey's bum. Bad boys seem to thrive on making you jealous, they love to give you that idea that you can 'have' him, but never REALLY have him. I myself, honestly am too lazy to be jealous, and if I ever felt that way I would think "Why don't I trust him?" and to even more blantanly honest: If i didn't feel I could trust a guy emotionally, I wouldn't even be with him in the first place.
For example, a friend of mine, shes the sweetest girl and she has never had a problem meeting guys (I want to know her secret) but if a guy is too nice to her, its a total turn off. I find it so hard to understand. Its like people who are in abusive relationships, do you enjoy being abused? I suppose its easier to say that looking from the outside in, but if any guy ever treated me badly and as much as I may think I 'love' them I would be out that door like no tomorow. And I don't even mean physically abusive.
A girl I know just broke up with her boyfriend, and for the last week up till the official break up he treated her like crap - as if it wasn't half obvious he wasn't interested anymore but she seemed to think there was still a 'chance'. Why couldn't he just tell her the moment he knew he didn't want to see her anymore? Yeah its hard to say that to someone but if you ever really did care for them it would save so much pain and suffering of wondering if they still did or not. And if they don't tell you, well I guess it makes you wonder if they ever cared at all?
I asked a friend the other day what it is about 'bad' boys she liked and this is what she said to me: "I enjoy the challange, you think can change them. Its exciting." Can you REALLY change them? Or in my case, can I really be BOTHERED to change them? And as for the 'exciting' bit I can think of many other ways to find excitiment - Changing someone can be a pain in the bum. Don't get me wrong, I am up for a challenge, just in these instances I would rather like to have it as easy as possible. I said to her: "I would take a guy who was not that great looking but nice over a hot guy that loves himself anyday." She kinda looked at me like I was a freak, but hey, its true.
When it comes to things such as relationships I think you need to expect the best for yourself and to me, someones heart is is more important than any Brad Pitt look alike. Trust me, I've been in those bad boy relationships, its a relationship where you don't say what you mean, and you don't mean what you say, oh yes, how I've been there.Its like learning a whole new language in itself just trying to read the signs and sublimial messages! I've had my heart trampled on once, and that was enough for me to learn, playing mind games is more trouble than its worth.
As for my strategy for dating, I like to call it: 'Tough Love'. Nothing short of my idea of 'perfect' is good enough for me. If a friend comes up to me complaining about how he never calls or how he always puts her down I say "Leave him! Its not worth it!". I see relationships in black and white. Not sure if you like me? Well come back when you know. If youre going to act like a sad ass to me, well good bye, because if you really love me you wouldnt treat me that way, if you want to play mind games with me - forget it, I can't be stuffed.
Don't fall for the rumors, good guys don't always finish last.
For example, a friend of mine, shes the sweetest girl and she has never had a problem meeting guys (I want to know her secret) but if a guy is too nice to her, its a total turn off. I find it so hard to understand. Its like people who are in abusive relationships, do you enjoy being abused? I suppose its easier to say that looking from the outside in, but if any guy ever treated me badly and as much as I may think I 'love' them I would be out that door like no tomorow. And I don't even mean physically abusive.
A girl I know just broke up with her boyfriend, and for the last week up till the official break up he treated her like crap - as if it wasn't half obvious he wasn't interested anymore but she seemed to think there was still a 'chance'. Why couldn't he just tell her the moment he knew he didn't want to see her anymore? Yeah its hard to say that to someone but if you ever really did care for them it would save so much pain and suffering of wondering if they still did or not. And if they don't tell you, well I guess it makes you wonder if they ever cared at all?
I asked a friend the other day what it is about 'bad' boys she liked and this is what she said to me: "I enjoy the challange, you think can change them. Its exciting." Can you REALLY change them? Or in my case, can I really be BOTHERED to change them? And as for the 'exciting' bit I can think of many other ways to find excitiment - Changing someone can be a pain in the bum. Don't get me wrong, I am up for a challenge, just in these instances I would rather like to have it as easy as possible. I said to her: "I would take a guy who was not that great looking but nice over a hot guy that loves himself anyday." She kinda looked at me like I was a freak, but hey, its true.
When it comes to things such as relationships I think you need to expect the best for yourself and to me, someones heart is is more important than any Brad Pitt look alike. Trust me, I've been in those bad boy relationships, its a relationship where you don't say what you mean, and you don't mean what you say, oh yes, how I've been there.Its like learning a whole new language in itself just trying to read the signs and sublimial messages! I've had my heart trampled on once, and that was enough for me to learn, playing mind games is more trouble than its worth.
As for my strategy for dating, I like to call it: 'Tough Love'. Nothing short of my idea of 'perfect' is good enough for me. If a friend comes up to me complaining about how he never calls or how he always puts her down I say "Leave him! Its not worth it!". I see relationships in black and white. Not sure if you like me? Well come back when you know. If youre going to act like a sad ass to me, well good bye, because if you really love me you wouldnt treat me that way, if you want to play mind games with me - forget it, I can't be stuffed.
Don't fall for the rumors, good guys don't always finish last.
