Dating and the Nunnery.
I told a friend of mine a couple of weeks ago I was going to be a nun. I was half joking. The other half of me thought it was an interesting idea.
Someone a while ago had sold me on the idea of 'dating for marriage' sorta based on the idea that Joshua Harris had in his controverisal book "I kissed dating goodbye". The idea is that you don't date unless you think that the other person is someone you could marry. And when you think you have found someone, you go through an interview process to see if they really are right for you. Its pretty unromantic, though it gets straight to the point: marriage... Considering the fact I am far from even thinking about the idea of marriage means I wouldnt be dating for a VERY long time, if at all. Which also means that the idea of being a nun is sounding more like a more viable option.
I was speaking to a church friend of mine recently about this idea of dating for marriage, and she brought up a valid point. "If you never been in a relationship before marriage, how do you know how to handle relationship situations within the marriage?" That is, emotional maturity. If you dont know how to handle a relationship maturely (which you usually get from experiance) would it be harder to be married? And what if the other person was more experianced than you emotionally? Would that be even harder?
Another interesting point, we were created to want relationships, whether it be friends, family or spouses, because we were created in Gods image and He sought a relationship with us therefore we want the same. Hmm...
Lately I've been feeling somewhat of a freak show. It seems that everyone I know is either getting married or have dreams of getting married. There are those girls who dream about their wedding day, what dress they are going to wear, the cake, the ring, all of it - and then there is me. Me who doesnt even know if she even wants to get married.
If I was single again I'll proberly end 40 years old, and still single. But you know what? That doesn't bother me. Being alone doesnt scare me at all. Being dependant does.
"An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord's affairs; Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world - how she can please her husband." - 1 Corinthians 7:34
Someone a while ago had sold me on the idea of 'dating for marriage' sorta based on the idea that Joshua Harris had in his controverisal book "I kissed dating goodbye". The idea is that you don't date unless you think that the other person is someone you could marry. And when you think you have found someone, you go through an interview process to see if they really are right for you. Its pretty unromantic, though it gets straight to the point: marriage... Considering the fact I am far from even thinking about the idea of marriage means I wouldnt be dating for a VERY long time, if at all. Which also means that the idea of being a nun is sounding more like a more viable option.
I was speaking to a church friend of mine recently about this idea of dating for marriage, and she brought up a valid point. "If you never been in a relationship before marriage, how do you know how to handle relationship situations within the marriage?" That is, emotional maturity. If you dont know how to handle a relationship maturely (which you usually get from experiance) would it be harder to be married? And what if the other person was more experianced than you emotionally? Would that be even harder?
Another interesting point, we were created to want relationships, whether it be friends, family or spouses, because we were created in Gods image and He sought a relationship with us therefore we want the same. Hmm...
Lately I've been feeling somewhat of a freak show. It seems that everyone I know is either getting married or have dreams of getting married. There are those girls who dream about their wedding day, what dress they are going to wear, the cake, the ring, all of it - and then there is me. Me who doesnt even know if she even wants to get married.
If I was single again I'll proberly end 40 years old, and still single. But you know what? That doesn't bother me. Being alone doesnt scare me at all. Being dependant does.
"An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord's affairs; Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world - how she can please her husband." - 1 Corinthians 7:34
